Well, that was an unplanned break from the blogging world and this website entirely!
Things have been a little crazy over here, and I am beginning to realise all too quickly how easy it is to get totally burnt out, when you are adding way too much to your plate, constantly being in a state of busy, trying to be an amazing wife, friend, daughter, business owner, trying to boost business, run a home, deal with personal health issues, things going on with family and generally just trying to maintain even some level of self care….can be damn hard!
If you have felt this too, I just want to let you know you are not on your own!
All I have done recently is apologise for being too busy, not getting back to people on texts, not being 100% available for my friends and family as I am wanting to build my business back up again after 2018. Trying to do all the things and not fully ‘doing’ all the things – I felt the constant pressure, I was always on my own tail, I felt exhausted, definitely not fulfilled and looked at my to-do list and didn’t do a single thing! That resulted in total burn out at the end of last year.
To even admit that out loud, frustrates me that I allowed myself to get there.
It was horrible, a hard place to get out of, and when I was in the thick of it, I didn’t even realise I was in it!
It wasn’t until I was reflecting on my goals at the beginning of this year, the ones I had set at the beginning of 2018 and realised I had only crossed off 2 things from my list!!!
That is terrible!
No wonder I didn’t hit the income goals I set, no wonder I didn’t book as many clients as I wanted last year, no wonder my business didn’t grow into the business I envisioned it would be.
Sitting down and reflecting on 2018 was a big one for me. And as we closed the end of the year and the chapter of 2018 – an absolutely incredible year although it had it’s challenges, but I got married, I had some great successes in my business, I made amazing memories with friends, I really tried to be grateful for the positive and then evaluate how I can be better, how I can do better, and show up for my family and business better to achieve the goals I have set and dream of for me and my business. How I could make 2019 be the absolute best year for me and my business.
It’s hard being a business owner, and all the things that come with that hat! But if you too run your own business, or just feel that last year at some points got way too much, I just want to say, you aren’t on your own, it is totally okay, give yourself a break. It is not a reflection on you as a person, you just need to take a minute , journal about it if you need to and the work out a positive way to get out of it. Give yourself some time off, relax, do nothing, or do if you feel called to do it. It is important to reflect, and if you feel the need to beat yourself up about it, take a minute to do so and then move on.
I didn’t take any time off last year, even over our wedding I had weddings I was photographing either side of it, still editing, working on the freelance jobs I have, I think I took 3 days off in total. And then didn’t really give myself time off for the rest of the year! I am going to be going more into this and how 2018 is a year I do not want to repeat as a business owner, I want to share where I went wrong and how you can avoid the mistakes I made!
Take inspired action today to make it better, change it, do one thing on your to-do list that you have been really putting off. For me, that’s writing blog posts! And this evening, I have just written 2!! Already I feel so much better!
Love, Charlotte x
If you are still in your 9-5, have big dreams to work for yourself and create your own freedom based lifestyle, you’ve started your side hustle and looking to be the best version of yourslef in 2019 to start achieving your goals, then join my new Facebook Group, Ambitious & Inspired